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Make Stress Your Friend – Use 4 Micro steps to Survive and Thrive

4/29/2014

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The media loves to publicize the dangers of excess stress in promoting negative behaviors and decreasing our immune system. We all know about sleepless nights when we worry about our jobs, relationships and problems. We know how excess stress seems to manifest in physical pain and inability to enjoy simple pleasures.

Ancient wisdom and recent scientific studies show that it is our perception of our stress that may be to blame. In fact, stress is part of our evolution and it has many benefits including help us with focus and provide us with spurts of energy! Stress can actually lead to a longer life – as long as you look at it as a positive!

A recent study at UW Madison surveyed about 30,000 persons to rate their level of stress over the past year as well as how much they believed this stress influenced their health — a little, a moderate amount or a lot. Public death records were examined to track these persons over a period of 8 years. People who reported having high levels of stress AND who believed stress had a large impact on their health had a 43% increased risk of death compared to people who experienced a lot of stress BUT did not perceive stress to be negative. In fact, the persons who did not perceive stress to be negative had a lower chance of dying even compared to the people who considered their stress levels to be low!

Consider the three "Gifts" of Stress:

Focus:  In stressful situations, our heart beats faster, our breath quickens and we may start sweating too. Stress focuses our attention on the problem at hand, increases our energy levels and motivates us to deal with the situation.

Connection:
We are often driven to get support and help from our friends and family during periods of stress. We also want to protect, love and support our loved ones during their tough times.

Growth:
Emotional responses to stress often make us review the stressful conditions. We learn and try to change or act in different ways.

It does not mean that you throw yourself in long and stressful conditions at work but be aware of stress in your life.  Act on your strong emotions (Not react).  See if you can find the "gifts" from the challenges you are facing.

Let us assume that you work with a tough boss and you feel very stressed during your meetings with him or her. It is possible to train your mind to thrive in that stress. Here are four mini-steps on behavior awareness and change that can transform your life!

Step 1 – Focus objectively on the situation: Pay attention to how stress manifests itself. How does the stressful meeting with the boss cascade into your daily activities. Do you pass on the stress to co-workers, your family, your friends? Writing a journal or talking about it with your spouse or best friend is great first step . . . but do not stop there.

Step 2 – Trigger Your  Relaxation  Connect this awareness practice with an activity just before meetings with your boss. As you head out to your meeting, take a few minutes to view the photos of your loved ones. Touching a little Buddha statue or tracing your kid’s drawing is another nice trigger to remind me to be aware of your reactions to stress.

Step 3 –Get Ready - Write a little blessing for yourself (“May I be happy and peaceful”) or any other phrase to center yourself. See this blog article for more information on similar phrases and how to use them.

http://meditation-magic.com/key-to-happiness-cultivate-our-capacity-for-kindness/

Step 4 – Act and Adapt- As the meeting starts, you may be surprised that your stress levels do not build up as quickly as before. When they do come, you will aware of them. Resolve to see how your body reacts to stress and how it benefits you in small doses. Does your stress help you to focus better? Do you get a burst of nervous energy? Talk to yourself. Accept stress is part of millions of years of evolution and it is designed to guide and protect you.

As you continue this practice of “stress-awareness”, you will be amazed to see stress in a new light. You will welcome it as an “old” friend and leverage the sense of urgency when you need it.  Find opportunities to learn and grow!  You will also learn to dissipate your anxiety and stress when it is not needed.

Download:
Free Download 10 min Guided Meditation: Three Gifts of Stress by Dr K
(Background Music: Insight Meditation by J.S. Epperson https://higher-music.bandcamp.com/album/insight, used with permission)
Do not use this meditation while driving or when your complete attention is needed for a task at hand.


References
  • Book: Small Move, Big Change: Using Microresolutions to Transform Your Life Permanently
  • Book:The Upside of Stress: Why Stress Is Good for You, and How to Get Good at It  Kelly McGonigal
  • Video: http://www.ted.com/talks/kelly_mcgonigal_how_to_make_stress_your_friend
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